Dr Hilary Caldwell
Online spaces were a place where Victoria could adopt a different persona. She was still herself, but without the shaming bullshit, she was trying to escape in her real world.
‘Dating apps are tricky places to be if you’re a straight woman,’ she says. ‘People’s behaviour gets magnified.’
In online spaces, Victoria knows she is a commodity in short supply. And she expects men to care about her sexual pleasure and be open to playing the way she likes. She likes to fuck on the first date, so she knows if there is any chemistry worth investing her emotion in.
Now, after she has good sex, her eyes sparkle with sexy confidence.
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The pursuit of sexual pleasure by women, offensively called nymphomania or promiscuity, has been historically viewed as a threat to ‘decent’ society. This threat began when women and children were considered men’s possessions. On the other hand, men’s pleasure is believed to be a natural and uncontrollable motivation for dangerous and predatory behaviour. Rape culture thrives in settings where sexual urges are considered uncontrollable, and men are given more power to initiate and dominate women sexually. Power, control and abuse are problems. Sex and sexual pleasure are not. Receiving pleasure is a reminder of something our bodies already tell us. Paid pleasure is no less good, valid or meaningful than its unpaid counterpart. Pleasure is good for you. And consent is sexy.
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